When two people spend significant time with each other, conflicts are bound to happen.
The main purpose of couples counselling is to provide a safe and judgement-free space for you and your significant other. A neutral therapist acting as a facilitator (i.e., a trained relationship psychologist) helps you make sense of what’s going on. They are not there to judge, but rather, provide prompts through a series a questions.
New Vision Psychology has experienced psychologists and therapist who provide marriage counselling, couples counselling and relationship counselling across three Sydney locations:
For your convenience and comfort, we have a team of 18 male and female psychologists who can conduct counselling sessions in English, Mandarin, Cantonese, Italian, and Hebrew. Since we have multiple locations and a large support team, we can typically see you with minimal delay.
Relationship, Couples & Marriage Counselling Fees
A standard session at New Vision Psychology is 50-minutes in duration.
Relationship counselling for individuals is available ($190 with a registered psychologist, $205 with a clinical psychologist).
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Frequently Asked Questions
Given the significance of the role that our partners, husbands/wives and family have in our lives, you will not always see eye to eye. It is completely normal for couples to disagree on opinion, values and priorities. In fact, most couples do not agree on everything and will experience a range of relationship problems of varying degrees.
At New Vision Psychology, our psychologists are trained and experienced in the following areas:
- Fertility issues
- Financial conflict
- Loss of intimacy
- Sex/intimacy issues
- Coping with trauma and grief
- Extended family issues
We offer relationship counselling in an individual setting as well as a joint counselling session. Our role as mediators is to provide you and your partner with a safe and calming setting to express fears and concerns.
Relationship stresses are highly correlated with symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress, self-esteem and anger. In particular, toxic relationships can cause feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, anxiety, and paranoia.
Not every couple’s issue will be the same, however, here are a few common presentations:
- “I’m tired of all the fights.”
- “We don’t even have fights anymore.”
- “Our thoughts on money are completely different.”
- “We have different goals in life.”
- “We don’t have sex anymore.”
- ”My partner doesn’t listen to me.”
- ”My partner is controlling.”
- ”I think I am picking fights with my partner all the time for no real reason.”
- ”Why won’t my partner understand how I feel?”
- ”When I think of my partner, all I see is red.”
- ”I feel distant from him/her.”
- ”We live separate lives.”
- ”We have become more like friends instead of lovers.”
- ”I hate my partner’s parents.”
We understand that convincing your partner/spouse to attend couples counselling can be difficult. From our experience, couples therapy is effective when both parties are willing to participate.
In some cases, your partner may have absolutely no interest in attending a joint session. This does not mean that you cannot access the help that you need. Give New Vision Psychology a call on 1300 001 778 to discuss whether relationship counselling can assist you.
Generally speaking, couples who seek out marriage counselling have a desire to overcome their differences and work together towards a happier and stronger relationship.
We have attached a case study to give you an indication of what you can expect from couples counselling.
Sophie and Peter* have been attending marriage counselling at New Vision Psychology.
In their first session, the psychologist asked them to take turns to articulate how they felt in their relationship.
Peter began, and said that he felt that everything in the relationship was fine.
He thinks Sophie is a good wife and mother, and that he still definitely loves her.
Peter said that they argue sometimes, but he thinks this is normal.
He said that it is Sophie who seems to think there are problems in the relationship, and this can frustrate him at times.
He feels that he is already doing a lot (like working, looking after the children, and doing housework), and so does not know why Sophie is still unhappy with him.
Sophie stated that Peter’s response, where he does not know why she is unhappy, is part of the reason that they are in counselling.
Sophie feels that she has been very clear about why she is upset, and Peter still doesn’t get it.
She says that he ignores her in the evenings, and always seems to be preoccupied with something else.
She also feels that he does not really want to speak to her anymore.
Generally, Sophie feels that she is not prioritised in the relationship and that she and Peter act like friends.
With an understanding of how each person feels about the relationship, the psychologist now works to identify shared goals that the couple can aim towards. It is clear that Sophie’s goal in the relationship is to feel like Peter is prioritising her, which is demonstrated by spending quality time together. On reflection, Peter, too says that he wants to have more quality time.
The couple agree that after work, they should set aside time to speak to each other (and not just to finish chores or watch tv). This could be by making sure that they sit at the dinner table and eat together, or to have a chat after the kids go to bed. The couple now have concrete plans to ensure that they stay connected and prioritise each other.
Future sessions will look at other ways to stay connected, such as improving communication, ways to avoid misunderstandings, and how to navigate conflict in a useful way.
* the names have been changed to protect client privacy
New Vision Psychology is committed to providing continued support to all our clients during COVID-19.
We remain open and ready to assist, including:
- Continuing to provide face-to-face in-person counselling services in all of our offices, and;
- Providing counselling services via secure Zoom Video counselling and Telephone counselling.