Conflicts in a relationship can be a huge source of stress and can impact your day to day life. New Vision Psychology has counsellors who specialise in relationship counselling.

This may be carried out as a joint therapy session or on an individual one-on-one basis.

At New Vision Psychology, we understand that relationships go through peaks and valleys. Repeated arguments, loss in intimacy, anger, mistrust, fear, and resentment can creep into any marriage. This is where relationship counselling can help to restore lost intimacy, trust and reopen channels of communication.

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Couples Counselling, Marriage & Relationship Counselling in Sydney

When two people spent significant time with each other, conflicts are bound to happen.

Given the significance of the role that our partners, husbands/wives and family have in our lives, this makes sense. It is completely normal for couples to disagree on opinion, values and priorities. In fact, most couples do not agree on everything and will experience a range of problems.

At New Vision Psychology, our psychologists are trained and experienced in the following areas:

  • Infidelity
  • Fertility issues
  • Loss of intimacy
  • Sex/intimacy issues
  • Conflict
  • Coping with trauma and grief
  • Parenting
  • Extended family issues

We offer relationship counselling in an individual setting as well as a joint counselling session. Our role as mediators is to provide you and your partner with a safe and calming setting to express fears and concerns.

Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage

Relationship stresses are highly correlated with symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress, self-esteem and anger. In particular, toxic relationships can cause feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, anxiety, and paranoia.

Not every couple’s issue will be the same. Some common presentations include:

  • “I’m tired of all the fights.”
  • “We don’t even have fights anymore.”
  • “We have different goals in life.”
  • “We don’t have sex anymore.”
  • ”My partner doesn’t listen to me.”
  • ”My partner is controlling.”
  • ”I think I am picking fights with my partner all the time for no real reason.”
  • ”Why won’t my partner understand how I feel?”
  • ”When I think of my partner, all I see is red.”
  • ”I feel distant from him/her.”
  • ”We live separate lives.”
  • ”We have become more like friends instead of lovers.”
  • ”I hate my partner’s parents.”

If any of these thoughts or emotions are familiar to you, call us on 1300 001 778 to discuss whether relationship counselling can assist you.

Marriage Counselling For Couples

The main purpose of marriage counselling is to provide a safe and judgement-free space for you and your significant other. A neutral mediator (i.e., a trained relationship psychologist) helps you make sense of what’s going on. They are not there to judge, but rather, provide prompts through a series a questions.

Generally speaking, couples who seek out marriage counselling have a desire to overcome their differences and work together towards a happier and stronger relationship.

Recommended reading: What To Expect At Your First Couples Therapy Session

Marriage Counselling For Individuals

We understand that convincing your partner/spouse to attend marriage counselling can be difficult.

Recommended reading: How To Suggest Marriage Counselling To Your Partner

In some cases, your partner may have absolutely no interest in attending a joint session. This does not mean that you cannot access the help that you need. Give New Vision Psychology a call on 1300 001 778 to discuss whether relationship counselling can assist you.

Frequently Asked Questions

Couples counselling give each person an opportunity to express their thoughts and option on what the issues are in the relationship. We help you derive common goals and values that have been forgotten due to ongoing conflicts and negative emotions. Couples counsellor/psychologist will assist you in developing mutual understanding through better listening and communication skills. This will allow you the opportunity to rekindle the kindness, compassion and love that have brought you together in the first place.

Couples who have had long term issues tends to cope with their distress by avoiding their relationship issues. It can often be very emotionally confronting to think about attending a session together. If both of you can get over this hurdle. The results of couples counselling can be far more rewarding than an individual session. Couples often report that after the first session they feel relieved that they have finally started to address their problems and they have a sense of hope and direction.

Couples can benefit from counselling when they feel that trust has been broken, when intimacy has diminished or when they feel that there is a communication breakdown. Others might simple feel that something is wrong and that the relationship doesn’t bring them joy and happiness anymore. It would be helpful to attend couples counselling to uncover the underlying concerns so that they can be addressed before serious problems develop.

Infidelity can cause intense emotional pain in the relationship and trust can be very difficult to rebuild. However affairs often happen when there are underlying issues within the relationship. Such as communication breakdown, loss of affection and intimacy, mental health issues like depression, physical health issues and additions to alcohol and sex.

These issues are often brought to the surface during counselling and when they are addressed, trust can be rebuilt and relationships can be strengthened.

On Average couples attend between 4- 12 sessions. The more open and willing one is at reflecting and changing themselves, the faster your progress will be.

Generally speaking couples counselling is aimed at overcoming the differences which will help work towards a happier and a stronger relationship. However, not all couples decide that staying together is the best way to move forward. On some occasions, couples may discover over the course of counselling that there are fundamental differences in values and direction and that each are likely to be happier if they were to be apart.

Case Studies

Sophie and Peter* have been attending marriage counselling at New Vision Psychology.

In their first session, the psychologist asked them to take turns to articulate how they felt in their relationship.

Peter began, and said that he felt that everything in the relationship was fine.

He thinks Sophie is a good wife and mother, and that he still definitely loves her.

Peter said that they argue sometimes, but he thinks this is normal.

He said that it is Sophie who seems to think there are problems in the relationship, and this can frustrate him at times.

He feels that he is already doing a lot (like working, looking after the children, and doing housework), and so does not know why Sophie is still unhappy with him.

Sophie stated that Peter’s response, where he does not know why she is unhappy, is part of the reason that they are in counselling.

Sophie feels that she has been very clear about why she is upset, and Peter still doesn’t get it.

She says that he ignores her in the evenings, and always seems to be preoccupied with something else.

She also feels that he does not really want to speak to her anymore.

Generally, Sophie feels that she is not prioritised in the relationship and that she and Peter act like friends.

With an understanding of how each person feels about the relationship, the psychologist now works to identify shared goals that the couple can aim towards. It is clear that Sophie’s goal in the relationship is to feel like Peter is prioritising her, which is demonstrated by spending quality time together. On reflection, Peter too says that he wants to have more quality time.

The couple agree that after work, they should set aside time to speak to each other (and not just to finish chores or watch tv). This could be by making sure that they sit at the dinner table and eat together, or to have a chat after the kids go to bed. The couple now have concrete plans to ensure that they stay connected and prioritise each other.

Future sessions will look at other ways to stay connected, such as improving communication, ways to avoid misunderstandings, and how to navigate conflict in a useful way.

* the names have been changed to protect client privacy