Do you often feel like you are on ‘edge’? Do you have a ‘quick temper’? Do you often feel angry, but not know why?
It is common for people to experience ‘anger’ as a primary emotion. This is not only uncomfortable for that person, but also for the people around them. There is always a reason for anger. It is important to give yourself time to explore and express this anger, so you can be unburdened from it. Counselling can assist with this.
Our psychologists and counsellors frequently work with people experiencing anger as a primary emotion. Our psychologists and counsellors understand that clients have valid reasons for their emotions, and that their frustration and expression of anger is often misunderstood.
Our psychologists and counsellors work with clients to recognise that while their anger is valid, their expression of it may not be effective in relationships and in the workplace. New Vision Psychology works with clients to teach them better ways to express anger – in ways that are effective and get their needs met, without causing conflict or further problems.
Specialist Anger management services for men
Whilst issues of anger are experienced by both men and women, enquiries and services for anger management at New Vision Psychology are often on behalf of men. Frequently, male clients who receive anger management counselling with us have been referred by their wives, partners or work places.
Given the frequency of male clients experiencing symptoms of anger, New Vision Psychology is able to provide anger management counselling by psychologists and counsellors with experience in specialist men’s counselling services.
Please give us a call to discuss these specialist men’s counselling service.
Signs of problems with anger
- you feel that you lose your temper easily, and for ‘little’ things.
- your partner is scared of you.
- your children are scared of your anger.
- your workplace has provided feedback that your anger is an issue.
- you are in trouble with the law due to anger (road rage, assault).
- you ‘snap’ frequently.
- you often feel regret when thinking about your anger.
- it is hard for you to feel relaxed.
- you feel that you lose control of yourself when you are angry.
- you can’t seem to get your message across, and people misinterpret your frustration/anger.
- you are often very angry in public (road rage, when waiting in queues).
- your anger has led to domestic violence (whether physical, emotional or verbal abuse).
- you are being ‘performance-managed’ at work after an incident involving your anger.
- you feel stressed and embarrassed by your anger.
How we can help with anger management
We can assist with ‘anger’ by helping you to:
- understand that your anger is valid, and is for a good reason;
- recognise that while your anger is valid, some of the ways you express your anger may not be effective in getting your needs met.
- explore triggers of your anger.
- learn how to recognise early warning signs of your anger (e.g. shallow breathing, feeling hot, increased heartbeat, tense muscles, increased volume of your voice, shaking), and how to respond to these early warning signs by de-escalation.
- explore ways to manage anger when you are triggered.
- explore positive and effective ways to deal with frustration.
- learn long-term management of emotions such that feelings of anger and frustration are managed as they arise, rather than allowing a build up of uncontrolled anger.
- use anger effectively, that is, to stay in control rather than to let the anger make you ‘out of control’.
- use anger effectively, for example, as a motivator.
- use of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (scientifically proven psychological tool) to address anger issues.
Our counsellors have extensive experience working in counselling, using a wide range of evidence-based frameworks and therapeutic methods. A key principle of our therapy is to work collaboratively with clients to meet their individual needs. This is by working with the therapeutic method that best works for the individual client. Some of these methods include, but are not restricted to:
- Client centred approach
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
- Relaxation strategies
- Interpersonal Therapies
- Solutions-Focused Therapies
- Psycho-dynamic approaches